Sunday, March 26, 2006

Oops! I forgot Jamaica......


I got obsessed with getting these pictures posted and forgot to talk about Jamaica. Went to Jamaica with Brunsli and I got called Rasta Princess everywhere we went! After that, then they alternated between hitting on you, trying to sell you weed or both...... Did go to this local restaurant and had someone tell me that I looked like Maxi Priest's sister. Not like I look like Maxi Priest, but that he has a sister and I look like her......

Pictures to go with previous post.....

So, here are the pictures that were supposed to be integrated into the previous post..... I may go back and try now that things seem to be working.....


Sorry, I dont have any pictures from India..... My camera got stolen there.... Long story.....










Turkey: Under thre canopy at Topkapi Palace



















Me in a club called Skuba in Chile! Fun!!!!!















Copacabana Beach in Rio.......












With a Brazilian friend at at y friend's wedding in Peru......

















With the mariachi guy on the Tequila train in Jalisco, Mexico and on the beach in Puerta Vallarta...
















Hout Bay on the southern coast of South Africa, near Capetown! Breathtaking!!!!!!



Traveling internationally with locks....

I have been meaning to write this post for a while. I thought it would be interesting to share my experiences related to traveling internationally with locks. A few years ago I had the opportunity to travel to a number of different countries and got varied reactions to my hair in the different countries that I visited. Thought I would share.....

So, I think the place where I caused the most stir was probably India. It was actually a little surprising to me because I have the coffeetable book Dreads, by Francesco Mastalia and Alfonse Pagano, with a forward by Alice Walker which shows locks in all their forms, worns by all different people around the world and I had remembered that there are a kind of holy men in India who have locks. Anyway, the reaction actually started before I even left the airport! I was traveling with a couple white grad school classmates, doing some research and we were standing in the customs line, waiting to get our passports stamped. I went through the line first and the customs guy just smiled and stamped my passport. When my friend, who was behind me in line stepped up to him, I noticed that he asked her a bunch of questions. When she was through, I asked me what he said. She told me that he was asking her about my hair, if it was real, if it was mine etc! This actually happened more than once. Another time, I was walking across the street to the internet cafe with another classmate, a guy this time, and when I went to cross I turned around and my classmate had not crossed at the same time. He was actually still standing on the other side ofd the street talking to this guy who had stopped him. When he got across, I asked him what the guy asked him. He said that the guy was asking him about my hair! A complete stranger on the street. Mind you, strangers weren't coming up and asking us things on a regular basis when we were there so this was notable. I am used to people coming up to me and asking me about my hair but that is the first and the only time that people have stopped my traveling companions to ask them about me, especially since there was no language barrier. I don't know if there is a cultural component to that or what but it has stuck with me. There was another time on the trip where we traveled to this very rural village and while we were in this building the word got out in the village that we were there. All this kids had gathered around outside to see us and if one of us would stick out head out the door or look out the window they would scream and laugh but I think that was as much if not more because they had never seen white people as me........

I was in Turkey for one day and got to do a fair amount of sightseeing on our 12 hour layover. Luckily, a classmate and I had a friend there in Istanbul who had just finished a semester of exchange at our school a few weeks before so he offered to give us the whirlwind tour! We hit all the big spots --- Aya Sofia, The Blue Mosque, Topkapi Palace, The Grand Bazaar...... We were in Topkapi Palace looking at, I think, jewels and other artifacts from the Sultan's collection and I noticed this girl, who worked at the museum, came up and started talking to our friend in Turkish. She sounded sort of excited and I asked my friend what she was asking...... He siad she was asking about my hair, was it real, she thought it was very cool and asked if she could touch it. I told him it was okay (I try to keep a good attitiude about these things, I appreciate that people want to learn about locks. I think it is better than having them walk around with incorrect perceptions and stereotypes in their heads....) and she was so excited that she pulled out the only English she knew to try to communicate with me. Mind you it was a line from a Sprite commercial but I thought it was cute!

In Latin/South America, I haven't gotten much reaction that I could tell to my hair. Nothing notable in Argentina, Chile, Brazil or Peru. I think especially in Brazil and Peru they have exposure to locks. Not much happened in Mexico except one weird reaction when I was entering a club in Puera Vallarta with a bunch of friends -- it actually sort of spooked me out. I was coming in the club, showing my ID, paying my money and we got to this bouncer/security guy at the door. He didn't say anything or make any expression whatsoever, his face was very stoic, he just reached out and grabbed my hair, like right by my neck, below my ear. And he was just holding it. I looked him in the face, and he was looking at me but his reaction had not really changed and he hadn't said a work. So what could I do, I looked him back in the eye, grabbed my hair, pulled it out of his hand and went on my merry way. Nothing else happened after that but I just thought it was weird......

I also lived in South Africa for two months, Johannesburg, and don't remember any reaction to my hair whatsoever. That was actually to be expected. This is a majority black country and I did see a fair amount, although not a whole lot, of people with locks. Also, since Johannesburg is really like the "New York of Africa" folks have a fair amount of exposure to other cultures. I mean, I must say, when I got there, aside from the driving on the other side of the road, I felt like it was almost in the US. They had billboards with movies that were showing and albums that had just come out in the US (Vanilla Sky and Michael Jackson's Invinsible, to be specific) and Oprah was on TV everyday!

Okay, I tried to add pictures to this post but I seem to be having technical difficulties. Come on, Blogger!!!

Not bad, Yahoo.....



I am not sure that this collage does justice to the comparison but there are apparently limited editing collage options in Picasa.....

I have to say that I am relatively impressed with the avatar options that Yahoo provides for YM users..... As you can see, Brunsli and I have been pretty successful creating avatars that approximate what we actually look like (if you ignore that fact that we have the same face!) I am rather impressed that Yahoo would actually have a range of personalization options that approximate multiple natural hair options for black women. We know this doesn't happen often! I am actually working with a guy from Yahoo right now for work and he mentioned that they actually had an avatar look a like contest last year. I think Brunsli and I could have placed pretty high. Not bad, Yahoo!

Saturday, March 18, 2006

My evening with the man!


Recognize his royalness??? Last Thursday night my roommate and I went to see Tamar featuring Prince in concert. Who is Tamar, you ask? She is Prince's latest protege who is lucky that he is touring with her in concert so that she can charge $60 per ticket. Now, don't get me wrong, she can sing really well (which we can't say for most of his proteges back when he was sleeping with all of them) and she is a good dancer. But she doesn't have an album out yet (it is supposed to come out in May) and about half, if not more, of the songs she sang were covers. And her background singers where these skinny twins with long straight light brown hair in heels. They had a lot of really good, well coordinated choreography but all of it reminded me a little of a Las Vegas review.

But anyway, who cares. I was watching Prince most of the time anyway. He played guitar and sang background on all of Tamar's songs. He is so tiny..... but there is no one like him! We were lucky because he sang 4 songs that night (the previous night he only sang 1 1/2) ----- Purple Rain (Yes, yes, yes!!!!), Let's Go Crazy, Partyman (from the Batman soundtrack) and Black Sweat (his new song.) He could have stood up there and not said a word and just played guitar and I would have been happy! Sigh.......

If the show comes to your city, consider going. They are playing smaller venues so that is nice and they pull folks up on stange to dance. It was a 2 hour show and we really enjoyed ourselves....

Sunday, March 12, 2006

Getting the smoke smell out of natural hair!


I was reading Brunsli's blog and she asked for a solution to getting the smell of smoke out of locks. I have a suggestion and thought I would share it with all of you.

Try Jamaican Mango & Lime Hair N'Cense.




This stuff works pretty well at getting the smell out, as I remember. You should be able to get it at Sally Beauty Supply or online at a number of online stores.
Try it out!

The Africa Channel is here!

Last week, I was flipping through the channels and I happened upon a new channel in the Comcast lineup, The Africa Channel. This new channel that provides all English programming provides a mix of music videos, local soap operas, news, and exposes was launched in Baton Rouge on September 1, in the midst of the chaos of Hurricane Katrina. Rising out of the chaos, the Africa Channel has signed nationwide distribution deals with Cox and Comcast Cable and has rolled out in Baton Rouge, New Orleans, and now Atlanta.

The future rollout plan has yet to be defined but, if you live in a Cox or Comcast area, and want to support this channel and other diversity programming options, call in and ask Cox or Comcast to add the Africa Channel in your area. And get your friends and neighbors to call too!

Read more about the channel here
http://www.redherring.com/Article.aspx?a=15823&hed=Comcast+Debuts+African+TV

http://www.multichannel.com/article/CA6310158.html

http://www.mediaweek.com/mw/news/cabletv/article_display.jsp?vnu_content_id=1000980416

or check out the channel’s own website for more information and programming guides.

http://www.theafricachannel.com/

Thursday, March 09, 2006

Black. White.

The first episode of Black.White. premiered last night. As many of you probably know, the show, co-produced by Ice Cube, chronicles an experiment where a black family is "turned white" with the help of 5 hours of professional makeup and get to go out in the world and experience life as white people. Conversely, a white family is "turned black" in an effort to understand what it is like to be black. And the kicker is, during all of this, they live together in a house in a Los Angeles suburb.

An interesting experiement, and it seems obvious that the one of the primary motives of the black family, especially for the father, is to educate the white family. He really wants them to see what it is like to be black. But the white father seems intent on proving that the racism that the black father feels is not really racism but just a result of his attitude. If you approach a situation with a positive attitude then negative situations have no power -- is Bruno's (the white father's) attitude.

Quite frankly, while watching this I thought to myself, "what a luxury to have such an attitude. What a luxury of white privilege." The problem isn't attitude. I doesn't matter what your attitude is. You can have the most positive attitude in the world and someone does something that reminds you that you are different or less (regardless of how you define yourself) that has an effect on you. I only hope his attitude changes some over the course of the show.

I am a little skeptical however, based on what I saw when the families were on Oprah a week or so ago. Unfortunately, it didnt seem like the families forged a friendship or much mutual understanding as a result of the show. And the Oprah show gave me the impression that the show was missing an important component needed to make this experiment "work." Sure the families lived together so that they could share their experiences but in a very emotionally charged situation with no one to help them work through those emotions - even now. I fear that this "experiment" didn't yield all the understanding that it could have because of it. But I will keep on watching and reserve my final jusdgement until the end.

Black.White. airs on FX at 10pm on Wednesdays. http://www.fxnetworks.com/shows/originals/blackwhite/main.html
Watch and make up your own mind!

Sunday, March 05, 2006

So what's this all about???

So probably part of the reason I have hesitated to start a blog is because I have been hesitant to choose a theme. And I think I am not really going to either.

Hair blog? I mean I know really only about my hair. I have had locks for 11 years now but do I think I am an authority, no. And after 11 years, most of my a-ha moments are behind me, although I have had and do have some experiences that I would be happy to share. And probably my viewpoint is summed up as, it is a part of who I am not all of who I am.

I am probably being a little too serious about this. Brunsli talks about her hair experiences and her life experiences on her hair blog.... Any way, if I have to sum up what I think the theme of this little exercise will be for all of you out there I would say that it is:

the life experiences of a single black woman with locks in the professional world
There, I've said it. And I think I have left it broad enough so that I can talk about whatever I want! ;-)

Friday, March 03, 2006

So I bet you are wondering......

Sorry to keep you waiting so long! Thanks to all those who participated in the poll. Interestingly, you all were split on this issue, just like I was. The results are as follows:
53.33 % of you said, Tell them the first night
and
46.67 % said wait until later in the weekend

The reason I posted this poll was because I really wanted to see what people thought of this. I myself was a little unsure how I felt about the situation, eventhough I happened to go through it! Yes, I was the dumpee! :-(

I dated a brother of a co-worker/friend for who lives in NY for a year and a half. He is sort of an artsy free spirit, seemingly with loosely defined career goals but not really a path to get there. I spent a large percentage of our relationship support and trying to help and push him towards his goals. Oftentimes he did not have much spare money so I flew up there often etc. All of this was okay by me, you know, in the name of love.....

It was a good long distance relationship and, at least for me, easier than I thought it would be. Although I often lamented that our everyday life wasn't more entertwined, that is what happens in a long distance relationship. We talked everyday, despite the fact that we had conflicting schedules (I work during the day, he works afternoon and evenings.) It had it's challenges, just like any relationship, but I was willing to keep working at it. I guess he wasn't.
The weird thing is, as upset as I was about the whole situation, in between all the tears I was actually a bit relieved. His problems weren't going to be my problems anymore. I have enough to worry about with my own problems. (Which I probably should have been paying more attention to in the first place instead of transfering that energy to him, but that is a topic for another post....)
So I am adjusting, wrapping my mind around the idea of dating again (ugh!), and working on getting my own act together! ;-)